First Time Father. Baby Care

Why Babies Cry

Cultivating Good Habits

A crying baby, wow… that's scary especially when you don't know why your baby is crying? Most fathers are experts with their baby when they aren't crying (That’s what we want others who are looking at us to believe) but the moment the baby cries, the baby is back in the mother's arms. Have you ever seen a crying baby in the father's arms? Not unless there is no one to help him with the crying baby.

When your baby cries there are three quick things you can check.

  1. Is the diaper or cloth nappy wet or dirtied? Change it if it is.
  2. Is it feeding time? If you have been observant enough over a period of time, you will notice that your baby feeds at regular intervals. However, that changes as your baby gets older but you will still be able to adapt to your baby's new feeding times. So start noticing.
  3. Is your baby running a temperature? If your baby is under 2 months, consult your doctor. Otherwise, keep your baby in a cool room (turn on the air conditioner) and ensure your baby remains hydrated. Monitor your baby’s temperature and take your baby to your doctor should the temperature rise to 105°F or 40.5°C.

Here are some other possible reasons why your baby cries. Your baby:

  • Wants attention, carry your baby.
  • Is insecure, wrap them up tightly.
  • Is uncomfortable, check for nappy rash.
  • Is teething; salivates a lot.
  • Is colicky, endure and pacify them.
  • Wants mummy.

Remember, when in doubt, consult your doctor.

With that being said, some of these crying can be prevented or minimized if you develop some habits before and after your baby is born.

Cultivate a familiar song or tune.

Singing is an excellent way to bond with your baby, even more so when you start when your baby is still in your wife’s tummy. Sing even if you are tone deaf your baby wouldn’t know the difference and who knows, might even learn to love your “style”. Alternatively you could play a music CD, something soothing not loud. This will come in handy when your baby is born, your baby will be quiet on hearing a familiar tune. I am not saying that talking to your baby doesn’t work, singing works better.

Singing is also the best way to bond with your baby. There is of course an obvious advantage to playing a CD. Fathers, this is not an excuse for you not to sing. Put your baby in a room and leave the CD on playing those old familiar songs, your baby will sleep quietly for quite a while giving you time to rest or spend time with your wife.

Handle your baby from the start and keep it up!

This is perhaps the most common failure with fathers, we do not take the initiative to care for our baby, we let mummy do all the work. Even when we try, we either surrender the baby over to mummy when your baby cries or we allow the women to take over because they feel we can’t handle the crying baby. Here’s the thing, DON’T HAND YOUR BABY OVER IMMEDIATELY!

Learn how to be keep baby quiet or how to comfort your baby. You will never learn how to if you don’t try and keep at it. Imagine how the women folks will be amazed at you if you can stop the crying before passing your baby over. A simple fact, your baby needs to get use to you.

No chilli or spicy food for your breast feeding wife.

You might want to advise your wife not to consume chilli or spicy food throughout the period she is breast feeding. Your baby is very sensitive to taste and consuming such food could cause the breast milk to become “spicy” causing your baby to cry when your baby feeds. My wife loves spicy food, although this is not scientifically proven, our baby will cry when feeding after my wife consumes those foods. You’ve guessed it; she laid off the stuff and feeding was fine.

Burping baby is a must after each feed.

Remember to give your baby a good burp after every feed; it removes the wind in their stomach and can prevent your baby from becoming colicky. Should your baby takes a long time to feed, burp your baby half way through the feed before continuing.

Keep night time calm and quiet.

Don’t over stimulate your baby at night. Try to avoid playing too much, too long or too wildly with your baby. Making your baby laugh should be minimized at night. You can spend the evening talking and singing to your baby. It is advisable to sing songs that are soothing and calming to your baby.

As the saying goes, prevention is better then cure. You can reduce the frequency of or stop your baby’s crying with these five simple practices. One more thing, always keep calm and be patient when your baby cries.